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The Plan

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The last time I posted, I was celebrating a birthday. The next time I post, I’m celebrating the new year.

Yes, I know that it is twenty-nine days past the new year.

But regardless of how many days have passed, it is the new year. That means it is a new opportunity to begin anew and to recharge. Life is a continuous journey, but one with many twists and turns to change.

So, here are five ways that I wish to change. Call them New Year’s Resolutions, if you will. Or not, because calling them New Year’s Resolutions puts too much pressure. They are simply a to-do list.

1–Start my career in the social media / marketing industry. I’ve known for a long time that my passion is in social media. I love to talk to people. I love to give advice. I love to interact with the hope that I am making a difference in people’s lives.  If I can do that on a bigger scale, nothing would make me happier (well, except for my daughter of course).

2–Watch my daughter continue to grow and raise her to be a smart, beautiful toddler. She is eleven months old now and such a joy to behold, however cliche that may sound.

3–Learn, learn, learn everything there is to know about social media. I’ve been using social media for awhile but I also realize that there is still more to learn, particularly since new features and add-ons are constantly being added and implemented. I plan on using SnapChat and Quora and implementing them to continue to grow my personal brand.

4–Read books. Read more books. I love books. I’ve always loved books. I love the written word. I love curling up in bed with a deliciously good book to read.

5–Write. I want to write more. Books, stories, poems, dreams, hopes for the future. I want to write more on the human condition to try to help and motivate others.

So, that’s it. These are my plans for 2017. Comment below and tell me what you plan on doing this year!

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A New Life Begins…

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For me, my life began anew on February 27, 2016 with the birth of my daughter.

I’ve heard this saying before from family & friends, as well as on tv & books. But I’ve never really understood what it meant. When I first became pregnant, I knew that my life was going to change. But I never knew how much joy it would give me to hold my precious daughter in my arms or to simply look into her eyes. I never knew how it could be possible to fall in love with someone so completely that it fills you.

Don’t get me wrong: I love my significant other but this is a different kind of love. The love between a parent and child or mother and daughter or father and daughter is so different and so new and so wonderful.

I’ve only been a mother for three months (gosh, has it really been that long? Seems like time has flown) and I’m loving every minute of it. Yes, it is exhausting (all those sleepless nights of feedings & diaper changes & staying up with the little one) but it is so worth it in the end. Because, in the end, I have a little child who is fully, completely, a 100% dependent on ME. This little child came from me & my significant other. Every time I look at her, I see bits and pieces of me, of him, on her face, in her expressions, and I am filled with awe and joy.

Since my daughter has been born, my priorities have changed. Everything has taken a backseat to my daughter. She is the number one thing in my life right now. Every decision I make comes about after thinking of her first and her needs. She is the light of my life and I’m so glad that she has come into our lives.

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Welcome to the world, baby. Mommy & Daddy loves you.

 

Life After College – Thoughts

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College is a bubble. So, what happens after graduation? Well, that bubble bursts. Suddenly, that protected world that you’ve known for four years is no longer there. You are suddenly tossed out into the real world.

Twice in my life, I left college. And twice in my life, I was no longer in that college bubble, forced to live on the outside with no communal showers and surrounded by a random assortment of kids. But most importantly of all, both times, I was forced to face the reality of student loans, getting a job and adjusting to life after school.

Having been part of the thousands of kids who go to college right after high school, it is hard to envision a life in which the world of academia does not exist. I’ve been in school for nearly my entire life. However much I might complain about the unfairness of grading and classes and professors, at the end of the day, it is undeniable that I start to miss it.

I miss taking classes that may or may not have anything to do with my degree. I’ve taken Greek Mythology and Writing Poems even though I am not a Classical Studies or Creative Writing major. I’ve taken so many German courses that I’d like to say that I’m nearly fluent. I simply took those classes because I wanted to. College presented an opportunity to take those classes that my high school might not have offered due to limited budgets. And, I admit, once I got to college, I embraced it.

The same goes for extracurricular activities. At college, I could join the Yearbook Club or the LGBTQ club or whatever. At college, I could take  or do whatever I wanted to (as long as it was legal, of course). Indeed, what separates college from high school is the freedom to choose. The freedom to be independent. But, of course, with that freedom comes a certain responsibility. That responsibility is our first foray into adulthood. Some of us embrace it. While for the rest of us, it might take awhile…

But however long it takes, we all grow up in college. College is designed to test us. To test our strengths and weaknesses. To connect us with new people. To allow us to grow in a way that we never conceived of in high school.

But sooner than you think, college is soon over. You put on your graduation cap and gown and walk across that stage to get your diploma. But just because you receive your diploma does not mean that the growth has to stop. Instead, use college as a starting off point to continue learning and growing.

Getting your college diploma signifies that you accomplished four years of college education. It signifies that you have the discipline to study with no immediate gratification. After all, there is no guarantee that a college degree will get you rich.

But once you get your college diploma, you discover that the real work is yet to begin. You have to find a job. Hopefully, you find a lucrative opportunity in your industry. Hopefully, you will rise up within your company in the next ten years and become an industry thought leader.

Or, you might end up working as a barista at Starbucks or retail clerk for a few years working minimum wage, while relentlessly filling out job applications. You might have to work two jobs just to pay your rent, car payments and student loan payments.

But eventually, you will launch your career. It’s not going to be easy. I daresay that it might even be hard. But who said that life is easy? And those four years of all-nighters at college will be worth it.

But until then, we hope. Whatever we majored in, whatever experiences we had in college, we are all driven by the same ambition: to find a well-paying job and be a worthwhile member of this complex and intricate society.

2015: Year of the Crazy

Life is crazy.

I bet you’ve heard that one before. One moment you think that you have life all planned and then the next something happens to change all that. Time and again, things have happened. And each time, I am reminded that what is important is how you face these obstacles.

So what if your Big Life Plan goes astray? As long as you learn something from it and move on with your Big Life Plan, then everything will work out for the best. I may not believe in God or  Allah or any higher being for that matter, but I do believe in fate. I believe that life happens for a reason. And every moment happens to test us, to teach us, to guide us to another moment in another place in time.

How else can I explain when I’m 26 and I’m just now completing my Bachelor’s degree? I went to college the traditional way when I was 18. I lived in the dorms (I hated it). I studied abroad (I loved it).

If things had worked out as planned, I would have graduated from college in 2011. It took me four years longer to get my Bachelor’s degree because I took a break. Which I needed. If you were to ask me if I regret it, I would have to say that I don’t. Because sometimes it is not about the end result but the journey that gets you there. I feel like earning my Bachelor’s degree at 26 is even more rewarding now than it would have been when I was 22. You know why? Because it was harder. Because I had to really work for it. Because a college education is not just a growing up ritual. Instead, it is something that is earned and it can never be taken away. It is the time to truly get to know yourself, to change and to let yourself be changed. It is the time to let education let you become the person that you were meant to be.

Now, that probably sounded corny and sappy. But it’s true.

Life is indeed crazy. Especially when you find out that you are pregnant. 2015 is a big year for me… the year of graduation and now pregnancy and starting a family with my long-term boyfriend and finding my dream job. Oh my, it really is the year of the crazy, isn’t it?

Takin’ it one day at a time

So, apparently the hit Netflix show “Orange is the New Black” season 3 is going to be released this summer. I’m super excited and eager to catch up the characters that I have grown to love, such as “Crazy Eyes.” I’m glad to hear that the character Brook Soso, who was introduced in Season 2, will be returning. She’s young and she’s mixed. She reminds me of me, though I’m not nearly as talkative as she is.

I think the reason why I love “Orange is the New Black” so much is because the characters are so relatable. No, I haven’t been to jail or prison. But I feel as if the characters are being real and true to themselves. In the episodes, the women gossip, talk, dance, have sex. There are no inhibitions. Anything goes. The women aren’t pretending to be a famous actress or singer or aspiring to win the lottery.

They are real women, trying to get by. They are taking it one day at a time. And I think that is something that we can all strive to learn.

It is important to live for the moment. Life is short. Don’t waste time thinking about what could have happened. Or what will happen. Live for today and be the best that you can be.

Dreams at 26

I’m 26 years old. I am a twenty-something. I can no longer say that I am a young adult or that I’m in my early twenties. I have my feet solidly in my twenties. I look back to those angsty teenage years and those rocky early twenties, and I am filled with awe and wonder. Where has all the time gone? Have I changed? Who have I become?

I’m at the point in my life when I can still remember those early years and still be able to look forward to what is coming next. I remember the day that I turned 10 and how super excited I was to finally be in the double digits. I remember turning 13, excited about changes and middle school.

And then I remember turning eighteen, excited about high school graduation and the college years. Eighteen signified adulthood, independence, voting rights, and college. Eighteen was the magic number, sandwiched between the awkward teen years and impending adulthood.

Turning twenty was another momentous event. It marks the end of adolescence and the official beginning of adulthood. I could finally say that I was in my twenties. I was no longer a child. I could finally start to make my mark on the world. Even at twenty, I was still filled with dreams. I wanted to join the Peace Corps and help people. I wanted to help people better themselves.

Even now, at 26, that desire hasn’t changed. I’d like to go forward with my degree and work for a non-profit organization. If I can make a positive impact on even one person’s life, then I would be immensely satisfied. I want work that is meaningful and life changing. I realize that I am just a small piece in the puzzle of the world. But even that small piece can do something big and wonderful. That small piece can change the world.

I’m older and I’d like to think that I am wiser now. But I am still filled with the same idealizations and dreams that I had when I was twenty. And I’m okay with that. I am a dreamer, but I am also a fixer.

Life Lessons

I am 26 years old and I go to college online. Going for my Bachelor’s degree has been a long, emotional, often treacherous journey and I am excited that it is coming to an end soon. Right now, I have only five more courses to take until I graduate. Until I’m done. Until I can stand up, immensely proud, and tell myself that I have a college degree.

I started college the traditional route, when I was eighteen years old. I attended a small liberal arts university for two years. My goal was to major in English. But then, I took a few language courses…. in German. I fell in love with the German language. I fell in love with the ridiculous sentence structure and harsh sounding words.

But, as with all things, life happened. Seven years ago, my mother passed away.

The death of a parent is so unspeakable. It was a pain that I never before experienced. It was shocking, gut wrenching, painstakingly hard to think, to know, that the person who is the reason for my being alive no longer exists.

But time really does help to heal all wounds, however cliché that saying may be. I moved on. It no longer hurts as much to think about that small, but emotionally impacting, moment in time. Don’t get me wrong, the anniversary of her death, holidays, and her birthday are hard. Sometimes I still think of the what ifs: what if she was still alive? What would we be doing? What if things had turned out differently? What if?

But there’s no point, no good, in torturing myself with the what ifs. Nothing can change the past. The only thing that I can do is live in the moment and be the best person I can be. By doing that, I will make the future just a little bit better.

My future involves me getting a college degree. It took me seven years. But I don’t think of those years as a waste. Instead, it will mean that the end result will be that much sweeter. And that is something I can wait even a lifetime for.

I will receive a B.A. in Communications. But to me that is really a B.A. in life. College changes people. In my case, it’s changed me to become more driven, humble, kind, and appreciative of life.

So, those of you in college, or those taking a little break, take a moment and appreciate the little things. Enjoy the college experience. Enjoy life. Enjoy the people you love. And just know that the end result is something to work hard for.